How Soon Is Too Soon

Is it ever too soon to talk to kids about sex?????

I just don't know. I am very big on communication and when my children see or hear something they are curious about, depending on how explicit, I explain. Recently, on Facebook a friend of mine posted a video she found on Youtube of a child singing Chris Brown's song "Beg For It", as in beg to have sex. The little boy could not have been any older than 9 or 10 years old. My friend stated "I have a few problems with this video. The primary one being umm...how old is he talkin about some "beg for it"? lol I'm putting my kids in a plastic bubble after they come out." A woman responded with this comment, "Ikr! I never listen to the radio with my chilluns in the car. Smh. I have 8 glorious mins to rock out to whatever I want, either after I drop them off at school or before I pick them up...and you should see me go! Lol. I go hard." While I respect both of them for their view of how to protect children, I believe hiding things from them is not enough.

I decided to have sex because I wanted to, not because I was pressured into it or because I wanted to fit in or be "down" as they call it. It was a decision I made alone. My mom and I had "the talk" so I knew what to expect after and she even put me on birth control. I think because she did all of those things my experience was not bad and was done responsibly. I felt like I was alone amongst my friends because none of my friends parents were as open about the subject as my mom. I truly believe because their parents were not open and honest with them they all lost their virginity irresponsibly and the experience for all my high school girlfriends were bad.

I decided to research and find out if I really was the only young girl with an open minded parent.  After some research I found out 92 percent of parents do discuss relationships with their children, 87 percent discuss their own values about when sex should or should not take place, 74 percent of parents are talking about ways their kids can say no to sex, 94 percent believe they are actually influencing whether or not their children use condoms or other types of birth control but only 60 percent are actually bringing up and discussing birth control. I was so surprised to know other people were open like my mom was and I'm glad to know that somewhere there's a girl in a group whose first time won't be bad because she knew what to expect and what to do.

*Be Dazzling*